Fate. What is fate? Frequently asked question that interests all or very many. Can I change it, influence it, whether you need to know it? In this article the author will present his view on what used to be understood by the word destiny, tries to examine and analyze everything related to that word. Fate. In Russian, this word is consonant with the word essence – that is the meaning of the truth. Given this we can assume that each person That makes sense, true life.
No single person ponders the meaning of life, over what it is trying to find some clues as to whether he chose the direction, scope of activities which intends to develop. Looking at people individually, we see that each takes in their lives set of solutions that are simple and they say crucial – those who change their lives dramatically. Obtained from our solutions, our independent fate How often do we remember the fate and what we mean when we say: "it is fate," so his fate "," hard luck "? Rather, it looks like an inevitability. In situations when it begins to act a stranger to us law or order, to sudden illness, death, birth of healthy children are not to be sick all my life, we say that this is inevitable, it is fate. We thank fate or God when they present us a flash gifts. Wealth of material for people or meetings with teachers and Gurus, spiritual teachers and for those who aim their birth sees the development of spirituality and the Spirit.
We need, therefore, to understand the feelings negative that it provokes in our mind, therefore thus we will only be apt to interact with it with wisdom. I will present now, in the vision of the autogerenciamento, the two ways to think on the disillusionment: A traditional, this places in the people, in the life, the cause of our disillusionments. In this vision, the others is that they are the causers of our disillusionments. We are only victims and not responsible beings for our disillusionments. That is, we project, the people, our illusions and dreams and believe that they will go to carry through them for us; we become thus vulnerable and dependent of the will of the other. When our desires are not carried through, we disappoint in them and we blame the life and the people for our failures and sufferings. In this way to interpret our relation with the life, we finish in imprisoning to an unreal world, the world that we see and only believe; where our mind teima in imposing its irrealidade to the others. It looks at that interesting! We create a perfect world, why will be that the people do not accept this reality? As the life and the others they are not here stops in them satisfying, are not our copies nor our slaves, then, never they will make what we would like that they made; then, we lament, we esbravejamos, we cry and we arrive in some cases, to take off proper life, for puniz them. Immature reactions! As the cause of our disillusionment it is there it are, that is, in the exterior world, to prevent new disillusionments, we start to run away from those situations that had disappointed in them, believing that, thus acting, we will be in protecting of new disillusionments. Inside of the rational logic, he is perfect.
This process finishes for reproducing and naturalizing a violent system. Corroborating with this information, ALMEIDA (1999), affirms that the domestic violence the one that the woman was victim during its life, either in its infancy or adolescence, acts as the influential factor in the production of passivity of the same ones, what it incapacitates the woman to rebel itself ahead of the violence, therefore, by many times is placed in the paper of culprit for these violent attitudes (TAVARES, 2000). Moreover, according to SCOTT (1990), in the formation of the personality of the individuals, the parents act as reference, being its values absorbed for the children, what he can take the similar attitudes and behaviors in the future. Supporting this affirmation, the research carried through in the Center of Reference of the Health of the Woman of the Hospital Byington Pearl, So Paulo, it showed that many women had told that the violence who suffer with its husbands or friends if resembles the same violence lived for its parents (to see TAVARES, DINALVA, 2000) .2.4 the PROCESS OF DENUNCIATION: OF the AGGRESSION To the SUSPENSION OF the QUEIXADe agreement with some authors (Giffen, 1994; To sound et al., 1996) many victims of violence do not make expert examination for innumerable personal and/or social causes. The act to denounce is problematic that awaken an interest of the professionals, therefore the official numbers of the violence domesticate do not correspond to the reality, that is, many cases are not notified remaining in the anonymity. To breach silence becomes a problematic one for the register of denounces. It is standed out that the necessity of a bigger joint between the state and the public politics for optimum agreement of the violence exists. In view of the social panorama that it looks to explain the violence against the woman is necessary also to think about the reaction of the women to the aggression and about the conditions that these make use to defend themselves of the violence.